Approaching for Introverts

Posted in Game on Sep 27, 2016

If you do a Google search on seduction or pick-up advice you’ll end up with all sorts of methods, tricks or techniques for attracting and hooking up beautiful women. No matter what kind of magic bullets they provide, however, there is no getting around the dreaded approach. To eventually have sex with a beautiful woman you’ve never met, you need to approach her first, plain and simple.

Now there are many personality traits out there but for the sake of simplicity I’m only going to mention two general groups, introverts and extroverts. More specifically I’m going to deal with introverts.

Introverts are people who do not draw energy from social setting or from being the center of attention. In fact it’s somewhat draining for some introverts to be social at all. Being an introvert myself, I know how mentally taxing it can be sometimes to get out there an socialize. This can present a problem when getting laid depends on you approaching.


Approach anxiety is something everyone involved in pickup faces at some point or another. After approaching a lot and realizing rejection isn’t a huge deal, approach anxiety starts to become a non issue. For introverts though the problem comes from our tendency to over think things. “What do I say to her?” is a question that will come up frequently. “If I say this, it might sound weird.” or “What if she doesn’t get the humor I’m trying to convey in my opener?” are things that might pop into your head as well. From there you start getting lost in your thoughts and you’ve already psyched yourself out of that approach.

My solution is to keep it simple. Pick a line or two that you’re going to use for the night and stick to those. “You look like you’re having the most fun here.” is one of my favorites for it’s versatility. It works whether the girl is having fun or not.

If you want to keep it simple but a little more spontaneous, stick with situation dependent openers. If she’s wearing a skirt with an interesting pattern you may comment with “That is one crazy/outrageous/interesting skirt you’re wearing.”

Even simpler still is the tried and true "Hi."

The purpose of keeping it simple is to keep you from thinking too much. Thinking, in certain situations, can be an introvert’s worst enemy.

Now that you have an opener, how do you go about approaching? Again, introverts aren’t big on being the center of attention or making a scene. Going up to random groups of girls and inserting yourself into their conversation is enough to make most people anxious but introverts especially so. I prefer a more passive approach.

For nightgame there's a technique I like to use. Basically it entails picking out a spot in the club. This spot is usually high-traffic like the bar area or near an entrance. The key is to be in a spot where women come into your vicinity often. When this happens, all you have to do is tap her on the shoulder and open. If it hooks, just run normal game, if not keep cool. You’ll get another opportunity soon. I tend to like upscale bars, lounges or less crowded clubs for this reason. I can pick a spot and have dozens of opportunities to “approach” without having to move.


If that isn’t an option I sometimes hang out near the bar and wait for an attractive girl to get a drink. If possible I’ll saddle up next to her and deliver the opener over my shoulder.

This is my standard protocol when running nightgame. It works for me because it fits my personality. It’s congruent and congruency can make all the difference in pick-up.


Do you consider yourself an introvert? Do you see this working for you? What methods do you use and how well do they work? Hit up the comments and let me know.

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